I’m relaxing here in my Bangkok apartment after getting three new notches in the last week. I’ve got more leads for this trip but I’m not pursuing them hard. I’ve opted to have miss Singapore, one of my regulars, come to town for my last few days to ring in the new year with me.
In many ways this is a good summary of my 2018 with women. At 44 years old I’m having as much sex as I’ve ever had in my life, but compared to 2016 and 2017 it’s been more focused on a handful of regulars that I like, and less on new girls.
For the most part I think I’ve got the balance right. I continue to wonder if I can get better quality, as I usually do when I travel out of San Francisco. And I’ve also begun to wonder, “what comes next?” Do I continue this lifestyle indefinitely, I will I eventually want kids with a woman?
2017 was a banner year for me in game when my process finally came together. I started out 2017 losing one of my favorite girls of all time because I accidentally scheduled a date with her best friend, and so I had to start the year building a rotation from scratch and also frankly also deal with the suck of losing a girl that I had such a strong connection with.
By the end of the year I’ve developed a template for what I look for: young, cute, a bit of an outsider, and wanting to explore the world. In this template I’m the man this lucky girls gets to explore the big world with. It’s the right dynamic for me, and I’ve gotten good at finding the right sort of girls and leading them down this path.
Here are my stats and highlights from 2017:
- 79 first dates (mostly from online dating)
- 41 (52%) of these I chose not to pursue
- 12 (15%) I pursued but couldn’t close
- 26 (33%) I closed on the 1st date (4), 2nd date (20) or 3rd date (2)
- Average age of a new girl was 23 (I turned 43 in mid 2017)
- In my average month I slept with 5 different girls
- I also had 3 carryover girls from 2016
- I had sex 188 times in total, 63% was with four girls
- dating a former miss Ukraine I met from nightgame (didn’t close her) while out partying with CMQ and Goldmund
- the 19 year old Singaporean track runner
- the 19 year old Stanford student
- starting things off with “Little me” (18 when we met) who I’m still seeing regularly and is my current favorite
- Trips to Miami, Tokyo, NYC, Singapore, and Vietnam
With that background here are my stats and highlights form 2018:
- 78 first dates (again mostly online dating)
- 44 (56%) of these I chose not to pursue
- 15 (19%) I pursued but couldn’t close
- 18 (24%) I closed on the 1st date (3), 2nd date (13), or 3rd date (2)
- 1 (1% – Miss Puffy Jacket) are still in play as of this writing
- Average age of a new girl was 22 (I turned 44 in mid 2018)
- In my average month I slept with 4 different girls
- I also had 4 carryover girls from 2017
- I had sex 192 times in total, 66% was with three girls
- Meeting Nash and becoming friends. Him doing a feature post on my text game
- Finding out “Little Me” ghost wrote a popular essay about me – the perfect example of “doing it right” (she is not listed as the author – she ghost wrote this)
- Meeting Pancake Mouse and becoming friends.
- Closing the Singaporean girl and Miss Artsy within 3 days of each other. These are two of my top 10 favorite all time and I continue to see them regularly
- 3 new girls in 3 days during NYC trip, 3 new girls in 5 days during Bangkok trip
- Trips to NYC, Seattle, Portland, San Diego, Las Vegas, Hong Kong, Vietnam, Singapore, Cambodia, Bangkok, and Malaysia
So maybe I’ve hit a plateau in 2018, or maybe having 3 of my 10 all time favorites in my regular rotation at once slowed me down in terms of pursuing new girls. I think I’ve gotten pickier, and have chosen not to pursue marginal girls that I would have in the past just to get the notch. Instead I had my regular girls and new girls came from trips or on occasion when I found one to my liking or felt like some variety.
In addition for the Hong Kong, Singapore, and now for part of the Bangkok trip I’ve chosen to see miss Singapore instead of pursue new girls the whole time (I still closed a few girls on these trips). I had other work trips to several other cities where I didn’t game or fuck that entire trip, and I think that slowed down the notch rate as well.
Could I get better results from daygame? Maybe in another city, but I find it hugely time consuming. I’ve done 25 approaches from it this year and have one open lead back home from it that I may still close.
What I am most happy about is the stability I have with my three regulars. Close connections with each in their own unique way, and all three know the deal and that I see other girls. They are 20, 21, and 29 respectively. All have known my age from the start and all also know that I see other girls. I’ve had no drama with any of them, which again tells me my frame is strong and I’ve internalized the skills of converting girls to me and keeping them happy in my rotation.
2019 for me will be about deciding if I want to stay in San Francisco or move to another city, and also pursue other goals besides new women.