The Two Romantic Dynamics

I believe there are two main romantic templates between men and women.  They come from childhood and are hard wired into the human brain.  And I believe this sheds some light on what guys ado wrong these days and also hat we as men can do right.

For lack of better words to describe the two romantic templates (dynamics) a man can experience with a woman are:

  1. mommy / son
  2. daughter / daddy

Women experience the same two but I’ll explain it from the man’s perspective since that’s what I know.  We grow up as boys experience unconditional love from our mother (hopefully – if she didn’t provide this then the boy is fucked). 

A healthy mother loves you no matter what, and takes care of you.  As it should be.

The problem is that when boys grow up and start dating and start looking for this mommy / son dynamic in the women they date. 

Your girlfriend or wife is not your mother.  She can never love you unconditionally, only instead for what you ring to her life.  Most guys don’t understand this, and it is trying to make this dynamic work is the dynamic of the beta male.

The other romantic dynamic is daughter / daddy.  This is not meant as an Electra complex …but in that you are the man and you lead.  You are older and more experienced and you take care of things and also set boundaries.

A father does not rely on his daughter to take care of him or provide support, he does this for her.  Loving you for playing this role in her life is the only way a woman can love a man that’s not her actual father. 

And this love is entirely conditional. Unconditional love is saved for her children.

This dynamic is what women crave.  Whenever I have given this gift to women they are happy.  The burden of man is that he had to lead and support, and he can’t burden his women with his problems. 

In addition it helps to have an air of gravitas and mystery to her, just like she gets from her actual father.  This is a deeply ingrained template in our DNA, you can’t deviate from it.  

Men can only be loved unconditionally from their actual mother.  It’s a burden we bear but I can tell you from hard experience that the joy and feminine energy you will unleash in your women from doing this right offsets that downside. 

When she trusts you are strong enough to lead this dynamic she will feel safe and blossom with you.

Author: Magnum

https://magnumlivelarge.blog/

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